Why I Can’t Cross Things Off My To-Do List or Blogging Takes Work

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Who says as a stay-at-home mom I don’t work? Well, no one directly says that to me, but that’s not the point.

The point is this blogging business is a lot of work. First, it started off as a venue to record cute stories, pictures, and videos of the kids. A place to perserve memories. Then, the blog found friends. It kept complaining, “Buuuuttt, Moooom. Sasha’s blog is so awesome, why can’t I be awesome too?” I asked it if Sasha’s blog jumped off a bridge would it follow? It stomped off and was inacessible for 20 minutes on a random Wednesday, which left me panicking enough to immediately look into how to back everything up.


When the blog decided to return it was all cute and pouty, so I gave in and found it an adorable background, fancy widgets, “Grab Me” buttons, and a cool slideshow. Like any sulking teenager, though it wouldn’t let me off that easy. The blog stomped it’s foot and made the “Grab Me” buttons come with extra characters attached to funny boxes with an “x” in them. And then it decided to make its cool slideshow run backwards.

I spent a lot of time working on all these technicalities (to no avail) and visiting other blogs to see if the blog actually knew what it was talking about. While out in cyberspace, I read a story about a mommy blogger who had her 2-year, 300 post blog erased in a Google error. I read another story about a mommy blogger who, after examining her stat traffic, found her child’s photo on an inappropriate website. These things terrified me, and as a result I’ve spent even more time on the technical end of blogging, insuring as best I can, that these thing don’t happen to my little blog.

All I wanted to do was write. Instead, I’ve learned so much about the world of blogging, I deserve a paycheck. It has felt like a part-time job lately which has it’s positives and negatives. I’m learning a lot (like HTML) that will always stay with me and can even be seen as a stepping stone to something else later. However, while the blog is supposed to be a scrapbook-like venue for memories of the kids and an outlet for my parenting observations, all this other stuff has left me little time for actual writing and it’s also been sucking time away from the kids.

Writing I’ve decided I need to rework my daily routine so I can spend an appropriate amount of time on the blog, both writing and dealing with technical issues, so I can help it become the best blog it can be. I do want the blog to be wonderful, but I don’t want it to become so, in the absence of what truly matters.

How do you balance blogging, the technical aspects, and family life?

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About Tired Mom Tésa

Tésa (pronounced Taysa) is a work-at-home mom who enjoys blogging while raising her family in Cleveland, Ohio. In between naps, Tésa enjoys writing about family life, giving back, food, tech, and travel.

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  1. It bothers me that people think that if you don’t leave the house, you aren’t working. I worked from home for many years as a Managing Editor of a magazine only going into work as needed. Now, I am disabled, and not sure what I am going to do next.
    A stay-at-home mom? You work constantly! Taking care of children is a job that never has a quitting time. You don’t stop at 5pm. No. You parent your children every second. People need to get that.

  2. I think your blog looks great and I love the way you write too! Blogging should not consume your life…but I must admit I was guilty of letting it do that to me awhile back…now I figure I'll write when I have time and read when I have time…but I'm not going to stress about it!

  3. Unknown Mami says:

    I very much identify with this post. Aside from being very well-written and witty, it's accurate. I love blogging, but it is a huge time suck and a balance needs to be found.

    I reduced the # of times I post to a max of 4 times a week and it seems to help. I also try to schedule post in advance.

    BTW, I'm trying to add your button, but when I go to copy the code it tells me the function is disabled. Have you had this complaint before?

  4. Just be yourself and keep it all in perspective, right? When all is said and done, this isn't about how many buttons you have on your site. It's all about you and your wonderful kids. They have a great Mom, which anybody can tell from your writing. And, balance is a good thing. So, take time off once in a while. Cut yourself some slack. You rock!

  5. i totally agree! good blogging takes time!!! thanks so much for stopping by

  6. Mama Plays Mozart says:

    You're totally right -blogging is a lot of work! The part about the child's picture really scares me though… What kind of things can I do to make sure this doesn't happen to me?

  7. Mom of Three says:

    Ohhh that is so scary. I guess I should spend some more time on those things. I'd be really mad if I lost all my writing, but I'm terrified that my kids' photos could end up somewhere they're not supposed to.

    Do you have any advice for newbie bloggers?

  8. So true, so true! Thanks for visiting my blog, I'm glad you found me so I could find you too! I think we're two of a kind! (And BTW, I don't love working out, but I see it as a necessary evil for me, unless I want to cut out sugar – NOT an option!) I know what you mean about the technical side of blogging, it can be really overwhelming sometimes, can't it? I'm trying to stick to only working a certain amount of time daily on my blog, to make sure other important things (like laundry and dishes) still get taken care of too, but it's hard. It's hard to work, isn't it!

  9. Chocolate Covered Daydreams says:

    Thank you so much for visiting and following my blog! Blogging is a whole lot of work, considering I just celebrated my first year of blogging…I've got so much still to learn. But the biggest thing I've learned is to do what you like and what makes you happy. There are a lot of great blogs with great pictures and fonts and all of that but I am just being me and that is the way I like it.

    Your kiddos are so adorable. My girls were 21 months apart and were like two peas in a pod!

  10. Lemonade Makin' Mama says:

    You are the sweetest thing.

    Blogging can just consume you. I wholeheartedly agree, in fact I posted about this very thing a while back. I've been commenting less on other blogs, reading fewer, and posting more infrequently. It just had to change. But I love it, and it's a blast, and the connections are awesome.

    I'm thrilled that you like my blog though…It's been a work in progress for the past two years that's for sure! You're doing great with yours girl!

    Blessings for a great weekend.

  11. Tater Tot Mom says:

    Oh I so totally agree and wrote a post of my own like this not too long ago. I was starting to feel like it was all too much and that I was putting too much time into it. It was starting to feel like it was sucking time away from my little one which is NOT good.

    So, I backed off of one of the boards I was not all too happy about and put it all into prospective. I do this for fun, not for work and those that have great looking blogs, that's great and I'm happy for them, but I'm happy for my little blog also. Bigger is not always better…it's not always great to want what others have.

    That last line totally does it for me! I agree, great blog but at what expense? I'm not willing to sacrifice my son's time for it or my sanity.

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